I hope everyone had a great day yesterday. P got me the cutest Lilly Pulitzer dress (huge surprise coming from a guy that switches from a flight suit to workout clothes!) and we had a mix of grocery store spring rolls, seaweed salad, sliced fruit, pita and hummus, and sparkling water on the couch for dinner.
(that’s the one. that’s just not me.)
We got to bed early because he got a call last night saying he had to go in for duty today. Not the happiest call to get, but that’s okay! I’m just hanging out at his apartment until he gets off.
On the way home from the airport yesterday, P and I got to talking a little about my blog and how I write.
I should say that P isn’t the biggest fan of my blogging. He absolutely loves that I love it, that I have connected with so many similar girls, and that I get great opportunities, but he worries that I share too much and subject myself to unnecessary criticism.
It makes sense. He’s in a military career that makes every effort to not share private details (why you don’t see a whole lot of him) but also knows that what I put on my blog isn’t the whole me. He said that to me one of the first weekends we hung out – that what comes across on my blog isn’t always how I really am. I don’t do that on purpose, I just can’t completely convey my whole personality in a few posts a week.
I know we start to really feel like we “know” bloggers, but I’ve always found that when I meet bloggers in person there is so much to them. They are so much more real and down-to-earth than they seem online. I mostly blog about the fitness and food aspects of my life, and so it can make me seem super obsessed with just those things when really I have lots of other things going on that I don’t share as much.
Okay, that was a really long winded introduction to the lesson he taught me.
P says that when I write certain things, particularly more serious things, it doesn’t always come across that way in the tone of my writing.
I like to keep things light-hearted and casual, and occasionally at least try to add a little humor, and I guess I don’t always make a full “switch” in my wording when I’m discussing things that deserve more respect. I also think that playing things off and joking around may be my way to ease tension around things I’m embarrassed or ashamed of.
So, for example, when I wrote that I wanted to stop checking social media in the car, it may have seemed like I was blowing that off like it didn’t matter. In reality, I know that behavior is extremely dangerous and irresponsible, and so I am making an effort to change. Regardless of whether you think it’s an appropriate thing to do during Lent, I hope you understand that I don’t think it is something to make light of.
Maybe this issue hasn’t ever occurred to you, but if you’ve ever thought I was being rude or immature in my discussion of certain topics I hope that this may clear things up.
I am not a trained writer (I haven’t taken English since high school!) but I will make an effort to be more clear and convey my true thoughts better.
Boyfriends are good for something, huh?
- What’s one thing that blogging or reading blogs has taught you?
- Any fun Valentine’s Day gifts/plans/single-girl events you want to share?
I used to host a singles-party every year in high school and it was SO much fun!