I've been saying I want to write more spontaneous, doesn't take me 5 hours to edit, from the heart posts. So here I go. Let's talk relationships again! I used to hide parts of myself that I thought could be deal breakers or turn offs. In the past, the blog didn't get brought up until things were getting serious. That's not an easy thing to avoid, considering it has been pretty big part of my life for the last 7+ years. I intentionally left it out. I know there is a stigma against . . .
Today I'm sharing one reason I used to suck at relationships. I'm sure there are many, but there is one big one that I realized recently. I think this is on my mind due to the recent reunion weekend with my college girls, who have been privileged (ha) to witness the more questionable choices in men and terrible heartbreaks I've gone through. We reminisced (and I cringed!) a lot. Gratefully I'm now experiencing it from a, "Holy cow, I can't believe I put up with that much!" perspective, . . .
Ahhhh the dating post. I've put this off. We all want to talk about dating, apparently! And that's normal. In our twenties we are pretty hardwired to be searching for a partner. Have you heard of Erikson's Psychosocial Development Theory? We are smack dab in the middle of the intimacy vs. isolation period where we are looking for romance and asking, "Will I be loved?" And if that search isn't going well it can be really, really frustrating. A change from previous generations, only . . .
A few nights ago I woke up and couldn't get back to sleep. I was reminded recently that my big break up with my ex was almost exactly a year ago. To be honest, I don't even know what the date of the break up was. I know it was a Tuesday and I know it was the end of March, so I guess it's easy enough to figure out. A friend of mine is struggling with a break up right now, too. She's hurting and wishes it didn't have to be this way. She alternates between feeling free and relieved, and then . . .