It sucks to be in a long distance relationship.
Sure I may have a personality that is better suited to handle it (independent, busy schedule, okay with doing things alone, etc), but no one ever likes having to be apart from their significant other for long periods of time. Or if they do, that’s weird.
In fact my dad said to me a few months ago, “But you didn’t want to be in a distance relationship.”
Yes, Dad, that’s very true. You know me so well.
I didn’t want to at all. I had been in too many LDRs before and was sick of it. I am in my twenties, in the years when most people are settling down and creating their life, and so living far away from the person you want to establish that life with didn’t seem like the best idea.
But it’s funny how the right person can change all that. Obviously I can’t predict the future, but P is pretty amazing and I have suddenly found myself in the distance beyond all distance relationships – MILITARY.
The relationship where they say “I am going to make you live far away, and then not tell you your schedule until the day before, and then send you across the country for undetermined periods of time, and you will obey with happy smiles because you volunteered for this.”
(The military and those that serve are wonderful, heroic, admirable people by the way.)
Anyway, back to the point. It can be frustrating. You see friends progressing in “normal” relationships, doing “normal” things like going to parties and dinners and family events together, all while you are trying to figure out the next time you can PAY to see each other for TWO days.
There is a lot of negative that can be focused on, but that wouldn’t help anything. Instead, P and I have decided to focus on the positive part of it: we get to go to SUCH cool places together! It’s like lots of mini vacations, and we are going to make the most of our time together by exploring cool cities. Sure it’s good to have “real life” time together, where you just lie on the couch or run your errands, but we are also making sure to make memories together by going to museums, theme parks, cool restaurants, etc.
(SeaWorld in San Diego)
For Christmas, I got P a map.
BUT WAIT. Not just any map. (I love maps, but that’d be a kind of lame gift.)
It’s a scratch off map. You use a coin and scratch off the places you’ve been and underneath it is all colorful. You can hang it on the wall, and then as you explore the world together you create this beautiful, colorful picture.
I gave it to him to document the places we go together. If it were just his travel it’d look much different -he has gotten to go to some cool places between the Navy and being abroad for a year. But ours isn’t so bad either! Dublin, San Diego, LA, all over Texas, and a road trip up to Missouri. We’ve got lots more in the works too, especially since we’ll both be moving again soon.
So that’s one way we are making the most of our distance. We are taking advantage of the fact that we get to travel and making a fun map color game of it. The more places the better.
- Have you ever been in a long distance relationship? Any other ways to make them work?
- Do you like to travel? What’s one place we MUST go!?