I had a talk with a friend yesterday about priorities.
He said mine appear to be very clear based on my actions. In his words…“Your family, learning cool medical stuff, passing your classes, staying healthy/yoga/eating right, and your wellness committee.”
I’d say that’s pretty accurate, but he definitely left out my friendships and social time. He also left out tons of other things I want to be my priorities, including writing well on this blog, harp, some research opportunities etc. But clearly I don’t have time for it all.
(And I love how I appear to be “eating right” to others when 65% of my diet is chocolate. )
I’ve struggled lately with my priorities and the amount on my plate. We all do, right? There is no such thing as a perfect balance, just finding a method that works for each of us personally. And I’m not really thrilled with my current method.
One of my favorite things about being in school at SLU is my friends and the fun stuff we do. We make dinner together, have girls nights, relax at the park, go out after big tests, etc. I also have my family in town which means family dinners, sports games with my parents, hanging out with my brother and more. These things are all really important to me because having thriving friendships and a solid support system is so, so key. I ruined so many of my relationship by being anxious and somewhat anti-social during my eating disordered period that I work really hard to NOT do that now.
But when I have so much social time, I really slack in other areas. For example, this past weekend with a friend in town visiting, I totally neglected my normal life. I wanted to show him a good time!! We stayed out late, were constantly on the go, and I ate and drank way too much and slept way too little. I feel like crap right now.
Luckily I didn’t have any school work to be doing, but I didn’t blog (even let the domain expire for a hot second, oops!) didn’t practice my harp, didn’t even check my email, skipped workouts, ignored my IBS (and my stomach hates me for it at the moment) and totally let my “responsible adult” life slide.
Sometimes a little of that is good, but the amount of stress and exhaustion I feel right now makes me realize I need to align my priorities a liiiiitttle bit better. I’m really bad about over scheduling myself, and my mental health suffers for it. Even with a friend in town, I need to take care of myself.
I’ve got a lot of important stuff coming up. I have a tough neuro class to finish, a harp gig to get ready for, summer research opportunities to tease out, and a coaching client to work with. To do all that well, I need to feel and perform my best. I need to get enough sleep, take some down time, eat nutritious foods and most likely cut back on the social nights out with friends.
So I think for a little while I’m going to shift my priorities to the work hard side of things and try to cut back on the play hard.
- What are your top priorities right now? Anything you have to cut back on?