I’ve been saying I want to write more spontaneous, doesn’t take me 5 hours to edit, from the heart posts. So here I go. Let’s talk relationships again!
I used to hide parts of myself that I thought could be deal breakers or turn offs. In the past, the blog didn’t get brought up until things were getting serious. That’s not an easy thing to avoid, considering it has been pretty big part of my life for the last 7+ years. I intentionally left it out.
I know there is a stigma against “blogs” — that it’s some teeny bopper, conceited thing to do. I’ve also had a guy blatantly stop talking to me when he found out about my social media. So in some ways, my hesitation has some merit.
I also tend to keep my sensitive, self-reflection part me under wraps. It’s actually something I value and have worked hard to cultivate, especially as it relates to my anxiety. But somewhere in my head, it got labeled being too emotional and feel-y.
Be Unapologetically You
The whole point of this post is that keeping part of you hidden is ridiculous and actually harmful. Part of what makes me so happy about my current relationship is how endlessly supportive, similar, and even excited my boyfriend is about the unique things about me. When I finally, fearfully, told him about my blog business a few dates in his response was, “That’s awesome!” (And I about died of happiness.) It helps that he is entrepreneurial too, and we both love having side passion projects that keep us
way too busy. It’d be trouble if one of us was constantly working and the other just wanted to sit and chill.
He is able to self reflect and speak about his feelings in a way that is really important to me, and is a huge benefit to our relationship. It hasn’t been easy to find someone with that level of insight and I value it immensely. It doesn’t have to be overly emotional and feel-y — it’s maturity.
So to my past self: don’t sell yourself short! By hiding who you were, you were creating a false relationship. If someone is going to love you, they will love you for exactly who you are. If you feel like you have to keep something a secret then it’s time to reevaluate.
You have unique qualities and amazing goals, and there is a perfect match for you out there that will appreciate those things! So be proud! Be unapologetically you.